Is separate parenting still the norm?
There is an old stereotype about divorced dads and their children. The trend of the weekend dad, taking their kids to breakfast on Saturday morning and spending short weekends together. Movies like “Mrs. Doubtfire” reinforce the idea of distant fathers who do not get to spend enough time with their children. But is this stereotype still true?
What are current trends in child custody?
In most cases, this old idea of weekend dads is fading. More and more families are opting to co-parent after divorce, giving fathers equal time with their children so they can continue to develop bonds and relationships.
In fact, many lawmakers are leaning toward this trend of co-parenting and making it the norm for divorce cases. Many states like Florida, Michigan and Kentucky are pushing for legal regulations in favor of joint custody and equal parenting. According to the Washington Post, more than 20 states considered or passed laws that make collaborative parenting the norm, rather than separate arrangements that favor mothers.
Benefits of collaborative parenting
With this push toward collaborative parenting you might wonder if it is worth it. In fact, co-parenting has many benefits, besides the obvious in getting to spend more time with your children. Collaborative parenting gives you a chance to help regulate parts of your children’s life. When you co-parent, you get a say in how your child’s life runs. You can help make decisions regarding their education, health and even how they are disciplined.
Co-parenting can also help you in your personal life. Scheduling custody can help you organize your life into a routine. This can also help you figure out how to operate your personal life in terms of dating, working and pursuing your other hobbies.
Joint custody and co-parenting are becoming more and more common, which is good for you and your kids. You will get a chance to further develop your relationship and have an influence on your children’s life even after divorce.
If you are currently figuring out a custody arrangement or do not know how to proceed in obtaining custody after divorce, you may want to speak with an experienced family law attorney who can help you examine your options and negotiate with your ex.