Thinking that it’s hard for fathers to stay involved with their children after a divorce? You’re not wrong. One study found that fathers who didn’t live under the same roof as their children tended not even to see them more than one time per week. A mere 22 percent exceeded even that slim level of contact.
As a father, you know that you want to stay involved. You also know life is going to change after the divorce; you may not see your children every day. But do you really have to drop down so far that you often go weeks without seeing them?
Some have said that things are changing. Equal rights are promoted more often. However, many cases wind up with the standard arrangement where the kids’ mother is the primary caretaker, while the father pays child support and just drops by occasionally to see the children.
It has been argued that there are some dangerous and potentially sexist stereotypes in play here. The implication is that men are inferior parents and don’t deserve the same amount of time with their kids. There is also an implication that women cannot provide for themselves and need money more than help with the children.
Neither thing is true, and that’s why there has been a push for more equal rights. However, if you’re heading to court, it’s important to understand that these stereotypes exist and that certain patterns and practices have been in place for years. Make sure you know exactly where you stand and what steps to take to ensure a fair resolution to your case.
Source: Wealthy Single Mommy, “Close the pay gap? Get dads involved? Shared visitation, no child support,” Emma Johnson, accessed Nov. 29, 2017