As a father who is going through a divorce, your biggest concern is being able to maintain a positive relationship with your child. You’ve been encouraged to maintain involvement in your child’s life as much as possible. You know you’re always there for them, but how can you show that to the court?
Today, biases are not as inherent in court. Whereas mothers may have had the upper hand in the past, now, anyone can seek fair custody rights. In fact, most courts now like to see both parents sharing custody as equally as possible.
How can you present yourself in the best light in court?
Even though you shouldn’t have to face a bias, there are still things you can do to give yourself a better chance at the custody arrangements you’d like to have with your child. A few things to do include:
- Getting witnesses to testify about your ability to parent well
- Have witnesses who can describe how often they see you at school events or with your child
- Being on time for court
- Dressing appropriately for court including wearing a suit or dress shirt and slacks
- Presenting evidence of being able to create a schedule at work that would allow you to care for your child when they are not at school or with the other parent
These are just a few ideas, and there are many others that your attorney can talk to you about.
Is it hard for fathers to get equal custody?
It isn’t as difficult as it was in the past, but it can still be hard because of the likelihood that the child’s father works more often than the mother. Even though both genders are more equal in society today, there is a chance that you don’t have a schedule that would allow for regular custody or visits.
The best thing to do in that situation is to talk to your employer to determine if there is a better shift or schedule you can have that will give you more time to care for your child. Even if their mother has been the primary caregiver at home, you still have a right to see and care for your child. You both decided to bring a child into the world, so you both should continue to play a role in their life as they grow.