Going through a divorce or separation can be emotionally demanding for a child. No matter their age, they may feel torn between their parents and made to feel that they have to choose between the two. Additionally, the information they hear from one parent may influence them to turn against the other.
If you are struggling to have a relationship with your child after you separated with their other parent, it is important to have patience. The child is probably confused about the changes going on, and they will take some time to adjust.
It is also important to ensure that the bond you once had is not lost forever. By understanding that these situations are common and by making a conscious effort, you may be able to take action to repair this relationship.
Address the reason for the rift
However subtle and confusing your child’s actions are, there will be a reason why they are angry or upset with you. Instead of assuming that they are being irrational or immature, it is vital that you take time to try and understand what is wrong. By showing that you truly care in this way, your child will be more likely to open up to you.
Break negative communication patterns
If you and your child usually become involved in an argument after a certain topic is discussed or when a certain behavior is exhibited, it may be beneficial to pinpoint that trigger and to replace it with something more positive. You may want to, for example, engage in sports together (or another activity they enjoy) to help you bond in a different way.
Earn their trust
You should not expect the relationship between yourself and your child to be repaired overnight. However, by showing your long-term commitment to making things right again, you will be able to gain back your child’s trust over time. Change is made through behavior, not just thoughts, therefore you must be persistent with your actions.
If you want to gain custody of your child so that you can work on repairing your relationship, it is important that you take the time to understand how the law works in Nebraska.