Divorce is complex and challenging in every way. It impacts every area of your life, so it is important to prioritize yourself. You need the internal resources to confront life and be prepared for whatever comes your way. It is hard to focus on oneself when managing finances, your professional life, and, most importantly, doing your best to spend time with your child and be a good father.
Divorce can bring about financial setbacks, conflict with family members, including your child, and changes in your life that you have never experienced. Practicing self-care and balancing your child’s needs with your needs is critical for you to give your child the best of yourself. You are not alone; millions of fathers across the United States are in your exact position.
What is self-care?
Self-care may seem like a vague concept, but it is not. It is the practice of filling yourself up with the energy and healthy habits you need to live a balanced and happy life. The first thing you can do is ask yourself what brings you joy and take the time to do those things. Feeling good is not a luxury, but a necessity, especially during tough times.
In addition to making time for yourself, you can create new healthy habits to give you a sense of structure in your day-to-day life. In addition, you can practice self-care by:
- Exercising regularly
- Find an outlet for your emotions
- Writing down how you feel
- Eating healthy
- Surrounding yourself with people who care about you
- Reaching out to a therapist if you need help
- Joining a divorced dads support group
There are many other ways to practice self-care and these are just a few. Nevertheless, these examples demonstrate what self-care is and why it is vital to incorporate acts of self-care as often as possible in your life.
You can only be as good a parent as you are a good person to yourself, so make sure that you prioritize your physical and mental health, ensure that you seek the help you need and do not feel ashamed for needing it. It really does take a village, and a divorce can be a new opportunity to find your own.