Few journeys in life are as difficult as going through a divorce. The path can be full of twists and turns, but the biggest hurdles often involve discussions between divorcing parents regarding parenting time.
The best interests of the child guide the discussion about parenting time. This legal standard is impacted by many factors and parents are wise to take these into account when building their case for time with their children. But before parents can begin to build their case, they must believe in the benefit of time with their children. Parents may hesitate, concerned about whether time together is in their best interest. The following discussion can help parents, especially fathers, better understand which path is best for their child’s wellbeing.
Question #1: Do children need their fathers?
In previous decades, there was a misnomer that it was best for children of divorce to spend most of the time with their mother. Although time with the mother is beneficial, time with the father is equally important. Data is now present to support this fact. Study after study has shown that absent extreme cases (such as abuse) it is beneficial for children to have quality time with both parents. Benefits of time with the father can include:
- Emotional stability: Children with engaged fathers are more likely to exhibit less anxiety and depression.
- Improved behavioral patterns: Active paternal involvement often correlates with better behavior in school and social settings.
- Academic performance: Children whose fathers are actively involved tend to achieve higher grades and participate more in extracurricular activities.
- Social skills: Regular interaction with a loving father can help children develop better relationships with peers and adults.
It is important for fathers to know that pushing to have time with their children is not a selfish desire — it is often in the best interests of the children.
Question #2: Will the law support the father having time with their children?
Nebraska family law encourages shared parenting responsibilities because, as outlined above, it is generally seen as beneficial for the child’s development and emotional well-being. Parents can help to better ensure their parenting plan meets this expectation by drafting a child custody agreement that encourages strong relationships with both parents and active participation from both parents in daily activities, school events, and medical appointments.
This approach not only aims towards a balanced upbringing for the child but also aligns with the state’s objective to foster equitable parenting roles.